Day by Day....

[ericmsant2]

Kissak,

Im kinda getting anxious now.

Normal Kissak...especially when you are afraid.

I agree with PEI's approach to NOT let you off the hook.

Why does that scare you so badly?

I really suggest that you answer this ^^^ question.

In my sitch I did not for a while. All I knew was that I was scared. It was when I answered the question that the fear began to subside. Let me give some personal examples, maybe this will help you.

I knew I was afraid..that much I knew. In my case, I was paralyzed actually.

So i was challenged and when I looked at it I was forced to face my fears, when I did, I was not afraid anymore.

I was afraid of losing my kids - Guess what it did not happen. In hindsight, it really was never going to happen.

I was afraid of being alone. Afraid that no other women would find a man with 3 kids who was broke attractive. That has proven to be far from the truth.

I was afraid of my financial security, which when I REALLY looked at it forced me to acknowledge my role in being in this position, which was good for ME. I also realized that although my life is different from a financial perspective that I can still feed my kids.

I was afraid that I would "lose" my XW. The reality is that she was already long gone.

I was afraid that I would not "make it". Guess what I am doing GREAT. As MHL would say...Life is Good.

My point Kissak, is that until you define your fears you cannot face them. Once you define them you will (if YOU choose to) face them. As you do, you will feel better, you will feel empowered, you will realize that most of your fears are of the UNKNOWN.

So Kissak, are you gonna answer PEI?

Dare ya

God Bless,
Eric