Davidrsae, my best advice is listen to what Bond, Sandi and the other vets are telling you. Put it in to practice. They have been there, done that, worn the bloody t-shirt out. It isn’t easy, nothing worth doing is.
Yea, you’ll get the occasional 2X4. If you detach and examine it you’ll see you needed it or a kick in the pants. Man I would sacrifice to be in a sitch as salvageable as yours. She has told you what to change, what she needs. You need to really look deep within and become more than she thinks she needs. The vets are telling you how.
Stop reacting from a place of fear. Respond with a plan. Actions speak louder than words. Show her you are more
Calmly, confidently, and with purpose begin to walk this journey slowly. There is no quick fix. No magic phrase.
Change, real change requires time, space, effort, a plan, and guidance.
Time requires patience which we all need.
Space you give her, and yourself.
Effort you provide for your change.
A plan you make and you stick with long enough to see what is working.
Guidance, you get from, listening to her, DR, Coaching sessions, ideas from this board, your spiritual guide (priest, pastor, shaman, whatever)
It will take awhile, and you will not see progress unless you make the journey real. When you do you’ll emerge stronger.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
