No one to forgive, no old hurts to get over, no work to be done because there isn't the past to deal with...
And maybe that person is another LBS, isn't that even better?
I mean, this person understands what you have been through. This person has been there themselves. This person not only makes you feel wonderful about you, they empathize with all that you have been through.
This person also has their own wounds that they carry with them.
Could it possibly work out?
Absolutly.
IF they have done the work on themselves.
IF they are done for the right reasons.
IF you are done for the right reasons.
IF you both know who you are, separate from ANY relationship.
IF you are both committed to working on a relationship in the future, because it only stays rosy for a short time...
Then, something happens, that reminds you of something from the past, your old relationship, your old wounds, and suddenly you are dealing with old issues or similar issues with a new person, a LBS with their own issues.
That will make you question. It may make you want to quit. It may end up being the hill that you die on...
Suddenly, this person, who was so perfect for you, isn't so perfect anymore. Now, they are just another human being, in a R with you, and it isn't as easy as you thought.
Truth be told, I believe it is harder.
Lots of IFs involved, and lots of DBing required (oh don't think you won't have to DB anymore, especially with another LBS)
Once you get past the newness, once you get past the commonalities of being LBS together, is there really a basis for a relationship?
Or were you receiving something from one person that you wanted from another?
Only you will be able to answer those questions...
And they are hard questions...
Your anger regarding your H and his behaviors, your reasons that you can't detatch...
Tell me what I believe your answers are...
My answers to myself for those very questions, were very different from what I believe yours to be...
My best advice, end one R before beginning another one. NOT because of another one.
No regrets...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
