I totally understand. I was lucky in that I was able to encourage mine and she responded fairly quickly (12 months or so). She doesn't even recall that I did that, btw.
Just the same, you may have tried now, but don't stop trying. Or believing he will come around to them.
That doesn't mean begging or nagging by the way. It means encouraging the kids when he does. It means not saying anything even remotely negative about him where the kids can hear. Period. It means having no expectations of him around the kids.
In the end... his loss really. While it hurts the kids, and they won't like it, they will come through it with your help. And you may consider therapy for them. I highly suggest it for them right now while he is acting like this, actually. But meanwhile, no disparraging remarks about him around the kids. Help them through it...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
