Sometimes a couple needs to be separated in order to get past so much pain. Instead of you looking at the stitch as it hurting too much to even see her, you could take time away from her and allow your mind to calm down. As long as "fear" is controlling you, the worse you will feel. There are a lot of things in life that we could be too afraid to attempt, but at what price are we willing to pay not to experience the fullness of life?
When I was growing up, women used an expression regarding childbirth. They would say, "Giving birth is the next thing to dying". I don't know if that was some tactic used to keep their daughters virgins....but I bet it threw some fear into a few, anyway. However, I made the decision to marry....and to have a child. Scared? You bet! After hearing ever horror story out there about hours, and even days of terrible labor pains.....I didn't know what all to expect, but I was pretty sure it would hurt!
It did hurt, but it didn't stop me from having another baby 4 years later. There's a verse in the Bible that talks about mothers forgetting(KJV) their labor pains after the baby is born. It's not so much a loss of memory--but more of not constantly dwelling how bad it was in order to give birth to a precious life. Having that love is worth the pain. What are hours of labor pains when compared to a lifetime of rewards?
My suggestion would be to tell your W that you need some space, also, and you have a lot to think about. Then, use ever how much time you need to heal. I agree with Bond.....she has more to be confused about! She needs time to work things out on her own. Until both of you can be healthy alone....I don't know that you could be healthy together. A couple can separate, you know. They don't have to file for a D.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
