I feel for you, I am sorry that your family is short sighted and bitter. I am not sorry that you are not.
You are the better person.
YOU are not the bad guy. never believe that you are. You're an example that others won't or don't want to live up too, and because of that they are going to want to tear you down.
My mother once said to me, when my wife and I were begining to reconcile. "I don't know that I can forgive her."
That still upsets me, just thinking about it.
My response then is still the same one I would use today.
"If I can forgive her for what she did, you sure as sure can."
Rather than let my family dictate how my moral compass should work to be a part of the family. I told them what was acceptable in order for them to be a part of my family.
Does that sound a bit harsh, or hard? Maybe, if I followed their rules, I'd be tsk-tsking my x-wife with my superior nose in the air ever time I saw her.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
