Antonia, why do you think your father drinks? All is not well in his rigid little world.
And what has happened over the years to your inner child? The one that needs nurturing and loving unconditionally and made to feel safe, and able to play.
Perfectionist parents suppress ruthlessly the inner child.
Take care of yourself and love your parents as best you can. This does not mean giving in to them. Your dad is emotionally abusive, and clearly very damaged himself. he is probably doing the best he can.
Doesn't let him off the hook, but in general, as we know people do not behave badly who are healthy and happy.
