Got an apology from XH. Need advice now.

[Queen_of_Swords]

I have seen him pull this with my sister and mom before. If you are there when he's like this, he refuses to speak to you or look at you. If you make him food, he won't get up to come to the table. He just stares into space with an angry look. He basically gives you the silent treatment until you cry out of desperation, and then he turns the anger on and yells at you for being upset

This is abuse, pure and simple Antonia. My suggestion if he pulls it on you is to call him out on it by name.

He uses silence and as weapon. He is emotionally abusive.

Power and control Antonia, power and control.