You touched on the struggles and her complexities (leading to her passing) without dwelling, on it. You kept the focus on her LIFE.
You gave specifics about HER, & how she lived, with great examples of the traits she exemplified. That's hard to do but you pulled it off!
BTW, Given her ridiculously good looks, I get the feeling if I were near her, I'd be a tad insecure. I might not want to like her. But then we'd talked & she'd make me laugh and I love people who make me laugh. NICE to know, Pete, seriously.
You reached out to family, you comforted her loved ones, you honored her.
You got some laughs and shed some tears. Everything a eulogy is supposed to be, and it came from the heart and you got through it. Your boys got through it too. AND Together. God bless them.
Pete, that was So well done.
Eulogies contain the most important, and the difficult words we ever utter.
You deserve the solemn pride of a man who has done his duty with love, honor and intelligence, for his beloved. (You did the same trying to save the marriage).
You've given your sons a beautiful, albeit bittersweet piece to the legacy. A legacy still being made...
God bless, guide and comfort you all.
Big hugs and prayers your way.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
wrote a long post but then thought better of it. Just wanted to send you a hug and a fast note. Hope you and yours are beginning the journey to healing.
Yesterday I saw the h and 4 children of my late friend/neighbor (she unexpectedly died 3 years ago). For a long long time, i worried sick about them, for she was the center of the family and they sort of "caved in" after she passed on.
But yesterday, I saw them all at a bbq. They smile and they laugh again. They run around and play, and geez how they still grow! They are healing. Her h even said "things are good."
I hope the same for you someday.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
thanks 25. ur thoughts have always meant alot to me
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Glad you stuck your head in to see how many people care and are concerned about you and the boys. The prayers have not stopped. I don't think anyone expects you to say anything until you are ready, but this is our only link to you and we are still family here and want you to feel that you will always be part of that.
Things are different in your life.....but it doesn't end the love, does it?
I start to type something, and then think,"I'm not going to say that," and I'll delete it. Sometimes, we just don't know what to say. Just know we're still out here.
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It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
yes sandi, it has been difficult. Im trying not to feel sorry for myself and get on with the bussiness of living. One of my friends mom's told me that life is for the living. Very good advice in its simplicity.
I have always valued your advice , even when you were swinging 2x4s. I dont check in as much as i used to , but hope to someday to give advice. I do wish i would have been more loving towards her at the end although i felt she didnt really want that till later. She did tell some of her friends that she knew i loved her unconditionally and she knew i always did. She even mentioned that in her farewell letter.
I do feel that this site is like family. Made soem great connections and continue with them.
You do great work sandi, and help alot of people. You are a good person; the world needs more like you.
In the end, i feel my wife was a good person, just lost her way and didnt know how to get back. I wish she would have just stayed and so did she. I wish i could have that last month to play over again cause i think i could have made a difference.
All i know for sure is that she deserved to live longer to get the help she needed. I will miss her forever..
pete
BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
Just like the DBing process, grieving is painful and will take a long time. I know you will always miss her, but I hope you can also find peace within yourself.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
