Got an apology from XH. Need advice now.

[AntoniaB]

I emailed him, since he won't take my calls (he just keeps letting it go to voicemail) and said "I am 2 1/2 hours away. I can be there in 4 hours or less after a call or email because I need to get the cat sitter squared away. Please call if you want me to come for any reason, make you dinner, whatever. I've already cleared my schedule for the week and can come anytime."

He did not email back.

I have seen him pull this with my sister and mom before. If you are there when he's like this, he refuses to speak to you or look at you. If you make him food, he won't get up to come to the table. He just stares into space with an angry look. He basically gives you the silent treatment until you cry out of desperation, and then he turns the anger on and yells at you for being upset.

He used to treat me this way when I worked a summer job at his workplace if for some reason he decided to be angry at me. His anger is almost always from a very irrational place. In this case it is just because during and after the hurricane, my XH contacted me to ask about damage. He doesn't even know about any of the other contact from XH. Just the hurricane stuff. In his opinion, I should not have replied and told XH the damage.