I've only just begun!

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Wow ~ can't believe it's been so long but busy GAL but not so much in a good way.

FEG and I had a wonderful vacation together in May and we are still dating! It is a great relationship, great communication etc....in Nov... it will be a year since we met. One of the things about him that I dearly love is that if I have an issue with something...and we talk about it....he replies "I'll work on that"... He listens...he is not perfect ..... and never am I but we work on things we need to work on... mine has been how I go about telling him something has bothered me...He told me I come at him...and puts him on defense... and he was right so I agree to work on that and I have. We really haven't had many hurtles and nothing major but he has been there for my daughter,my son and me during this horrible summer.

Now for the bad"

In June my daughter was hospitalized for almost a month and almost died due to a ruptured appendix that had been ruptured inside of her for almost 3 weeks they estimate..so by the time she presented with her illness...she was very sick and came fairly close to "I can't even say it". She recovered at home for 4 weeks after that hospital stay and the last two was getting back to normal and was cleared to go to summer camp.

She was there for less than 24 hours and I got a call she had been hit by a boat prop. The call dropped and that's all I knew for awhile.... they where on the other side of the mountains..so FEG drove me there and in the end it was a big cut below her foot involving some nerves and bone but she is recovering and hopefully be back up to speed in 2 months...the happened the first part of August.

EXH acted like an jerk on both occasions... they had to call a social worker to the hosptial during the first stay..because he grabbed me and wouldn't let me out of the room at one point...not in front of Coral but when I walked across the hallway into her room she could see I was upset and asked him what he did and I tried to reassure her everything was fine and we were both upset...she called him an a$$hole and kicked him out of her room. The social worker straightened him out and it was just tense even from the beginning

My new friends that had never met EX were weirded out by his behavior and soon stopped coming because he had such bad MOJO around him and thankfully he didn't come around much.

When she got hit by the boat prop..he chose not to fly home because he was flying the new 787 and that would have been a sacrifice...so he said when he got home on sunday (this happend on Tues) he wanted to come see her) Soooo Sunday rolls around and we hear nothing by 5 so we go see her Youth group till 6:30 (she's in a wheelchair) we get to the car and see he has called on her cell...she called him back and he said he would see her on Monday....BECAUSE since she didn't answer the phone he made other plans and Debbie (new girl of a few weeks) just walked in the door... well this started a fued between he and her...she was devastated that he chose that over her.

(he lives on a boat and wanted her to come to the boat...umm yea..down the dock and on a 40ft boat in a wheelchair...HUH!! What part of she is really hurt did he not get?)

So...he is still deep in his crisis and doesn't get it...I don't say anything to him about it anymore cause frankly my daughter has a great voice on her.... and I overheard her conversation with her dad .....telling him he needed to "grow a set" and that he "was an a$$hole" and that "she didn't care if she should not say that to him cause nobody else had the guts to tell you and I do". Now, let me say that my daughter never curses.... and I did have a talk with her that she needs to figure out how to get her point across without the disrespectful language to her father.... but on the inside I will admit ....it made me chuckle!

And I am glad to see that she won't allow people to treat her poorly!!!!!

I am still in school and that is going well and trying to sell my home so that is keeping things busy.

So... that's my update!