An end to hostilities?

[AntoniaB]

Beatrice, you were talking about pleasers on my thread. Seems to me your XH is exhibiting some of that here--on one hand he's being the other type of MLCer, the distant/cold/even angry one with the absurd thing he's doing over this situation. But it's like he's separating it in his mind from the long email he wrote to you. It's like 'look mom I did a bad thing, I'm a big boy!! But don't be mad, please?" I don't even think this sort of thing is a regression to teenager behavior. I think it's a regression to CHILDHOOD behavior.

In the midst of mine talking nicely to me, he also is steadfastly angry that my retirement company is going to make him have an acct with them so they can roll the money from mine into his to equalize the amounts. No, he wants my company to go against the IRS rules and just transfer before you're allowed to without penalty into his retirement company--and sure you can do that for a 20% penalty. But no: he got a lawyer. Therefore he should get what he wants. All this means is that he will have money in a second retirement account. He doesn't have to lift a finger to manage it and I think they charge a whopping 12 dollars a year to manage it for him. It's the dumbest thing in the world to cry over, but he's crying ;-)

They're nuts. They really are. You're on the right path, though.