Thanks for the support, I truely welcome it

Since my last post my wife has text me and called me, I am just ignoring her, I do not want to speak to her

She has lied to me and abused the love I have for my children so she can see OM, I would do anything to see my children but she has used that love, so she could see OM

That is not fair on the children or me

She has called several times whilst I've been writing this and I get the feeling she is starting to panic!!
I've had about 10 calls!!!!!

I pull back, I will have the kids on the nights we have previously agreed and end all contact.

I don't like her and she will be worse off without me in her life than I will be without her and the deception.

I have never spoken to her parents about us, they really turned against me when we split, so I am not trying to get merit points off them, but with the situation this week, they have seen what is really happening and not just what their daughter is telling them.

I am sick of always being the bad guy, I know I've made mistakes, and I'm paying the price for that now, but this is a chance for people to see the truth, I'm not a bad person, and I am a good father.

I will continue with this stance, this is really the first time in a long time that I have not messed up and she has the upper hand, this time she has done wrong, in regard to lying and her attitude to our children, and I don't want to be a part of it no longer.
So I can say that I don't want to speak to her without any consideration of guilt on my part.

I agree with your point,I do now have to set boundaries, and just let her get on with whatever she thinks best.
Because of how I feel I don't want to contact her, previously I have, I haven't done it, but I have wanted to!

This is real DBing as I feel like the WAW now, and she has to come to me, if she doesn't, I'm not bothered, I am hurt and angry with the lies, if she does, she needs to work pretty hard for me to soften again and be the friend at the end of the phone to her every need.

I miss and love my wife, but I have to protect myself, she has moved on, and I think by her actions, there is an element of guilt?, why keep calling me???

I'm very confused and very hurt, I need to think about me.

Thanks for listening.