PLEASE!!! Need help quick! Calling all vets!

[InAPickle]

What does it mean to fight for marriage?
With whom are we fighting? Our walkaways? Ourselves?
Does it mean, persuade, convince, delay the inevitable?

I ask these questions, because they invoke certain images:
pictures of our whole world crashing down around us,
pictures of our children without having a mom and dad in love,
pictures of me growing old alone and without a companion,
pictures of a future so ghastly different from the one we just yesterday had taken completely for granted.

But nobody knows the future, and you can picture whatever you want. You've lost (or should I say never had) control of any future involving your WAS. But you still control you.

Fighting for marriage may mean other things now.
It may mean giving your WAS freedom to learn what they really want (maybe one day - M).
It may mean giving your WAS time to heal from whatever.
It may mean standing up for your dignity and vows regardless.
It may mean an indefinate waiting for some crazy miracle.
It may mean moving forward with your own life and living well.
It may mean doing only the things you have control over.

There is absolutely no guarantees that:

Any day now s/he'll come to their senses and say "WTF am I doing!"
S/he won't ride off into the sunset with their fantasy,
in 30 days you'll both wake up and realize it was all a nightmare.

Do you see where this is going?
Don't let fear of an unknown future paralyze you.
The future is still your friend.
Be strong Tad. Show the world your strength.

We'll keep you in our prayers.
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