Do what I can but still have questions 4

[soccerwife]

I hope I am missing the big picture and I may be missing those small positive signs, but it seems like H just keeps getting angrier and angrier. I guess there is no question that the stress in the house has declined drastically but I can't shake the feeling that H is more distant this week than he was two or three weeks ago. I would guess this is mostly due to the fact that we have not done the goodbye kiss ritual for two weeks now.

The more I try to do the right thing, the more kind, caring, polite things I do, the meaner he gets. I have refrained from criticizing, complaining, and condeming COMPLETELY. He, on the other hand, hasn't said a please or thankyou for weeks. He puts me down and blames me for small things that I had nothing to do with. Last night he said he "has no tolerance for stupid people" when I couldn't remember the work onomatopoeia.

I know that is borderline abusive. and I know I should have called him out on his disrespect right then, but I just don't think that fast. Instead, I was a doormat and said, "that is why you're here Dear, because your so smart." I didn't bother to sarcastically say that I saw him looking it up on his phone.

I know that he is just punishing me for what he feels I did wrong (I won't mutually agree to D so he feels hurt, unsupported, and anger at my lack of understanding of his needs).

What should I do/try next? Or, is there nothing left to do? Is it in God's hands now? I keep repeating it to myself, but I guess there is nothing left to do but the right thing, my fixing, and the rest is out of my control.

We have MC tomorrow morning and then I have a feeling I am going to need to talk to DB coach in a few days.