Yea there are some things that might conflict with the DB stuff. And yea i am also aware of sandi's sig on 'do what works'
When i look back...I would have done exactly the same just 6 months ago. Now.... Nope i would not. Don't get me wrong. Just in my case i was always the guy who pleased his wife waaay too much. Hopefully in your case, your B-day wishes were a 180 ??
Who knows...Maybe it would get your W thinking
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...