The reason he's stuck on her isn't about HER. It's about HIM and it's about how you guys live.
What do I mean? Well
the way YOU describe your life and the way you say you behave around your h
is, I'm sorry to say, something I would tire of.
When you describe your utter terror at the thought of losing someone who has mistreated you now for awhile,
You've made it sound as if you are super needy and dependent on him,
and in that sense, you bring little to the table but your needs...(which = his guilt).
Sometimes, I can see why your h's needs as a man, and lover and as a dynamic individual were not met...and why he wants to feel free.
Even though we all struggle with the desire for freedom...as long as some of our needs are met, it is usually manageable.
When you meet your own needs, you'll be able to bring something to the table.
I'm not saying he's being a great guy or that you are supposed to just take it...but dang, back off and take a hard look at yourself to figure out if you really are addressing things that were missing in the marriage before OW came along.
It's clearly not about THEIR R since she didn't reciprocate. But he got a glimpse of another way to live. What do you think about that?
Without talking about it, perhaps there's something you can do to have a piece of that in your life...
some romance, something other than how your illness prevents you AND him from...what?? Running marathons?
Okay, but are there things that have been neglected too much for too long?
What can YOU do that's different?
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
