OW called our house

[jbnati]

I think we may have...I mentioned in a previous post that I found a pro-marriage in our area...well, coincidently H contacted her back in mid-August and has been receiving her weekly newsletters (as have I).

That's interesting. At least you two are in agreement with one you're going to start with.

Yeah, I admit I'm worried. I'm afraid she's going to out their A all over the place and damage our family even more. Time will tell just how crazy she is I suppose...

NOTE - She gets a minimum of two crazy smilies any time I mention her. Seriously I really hope she backs off over time. You are already wary of her, so I am not going to beat a dead horse here.

D16 is continuing to avoid H and has expressed that if it was her, she would chose to NOT stay in the marriage. I told her that these situations are complicated and that I'd been doing a lot of intensive reading on the subject so I'm simply not going to make any rash decisions. I absolutely hate that ow has involved my children but there's no changing that fact at this point, so now we're left to deal with the ramifications.

D16 has also mentioned that if it was up to her, she would want H to move out right now. However, she does not want her little brother to suffer so she does not want me to make that decision based on her feelings. I appreciate that she's being as mature about this as possible, given such a complicated conundrum.

I think I'm going to take a little of 25 on this one and a little of Val. I think you're recognizing this - but this way too much responsibility for a 16 year old to have input on. I agree with Val that she does need to feel these emotions. I don't think it's easy on kids of any age. I lived through it as a 13 year old myself.

And we have both agreed to Retrovaille so that is hopeful. H said he's going to register us this week. (We shall see if he follows through).

This sounds good. FWIW, I have this gut feeling he's going to follow through on registering.

All that said, the feelings of disgust I am having towards the thought of H touching me are deeply disturbing me though. I assuming they will pass in time...

I can only imagine. I don't have any experience in this myself, but I do believe some time will help to heal this.

As I been doing - big hugs to you, E. ((((()))))