You remain very dependent on whatever your wife is doing and saying/ This isn't healthy for you, even if the r was great, but as she is currently a very messed up human being you are linking your emotional wellbeing in a crazy person's behaviour.
If you saw someone doing this on a tv show what would you thin? You would be willing them to disengage, and let crazy person get on with whatever it is that makes them currently happy.
I agree with all that has been said on teh subject of response.
Many of us here have divorced: do you seriously think we felt it less, minded less, than you do. Of course you don't. And look, we survived, and are all of us doing really well. Blips yes, but even heppily married people have them!
