I admire your strength. But don't get masochistic here. Be SURE you want the "gory" details before you dig and dig
and have not done much forgiveness work (it's time consuming). I almost wonder if you are sabotaging things by asking for so much detail.
Also, re your daughter, sorry but it's NOT UP TO HER if you work on your m.
That's a marital choice, not a child's.
You have to give her a reason to hope for better from h and from your m and from you
and to show that regardless of
whether you two stay together down the road,
you can't let some psycho Fatal Attraction nut break your family up now.
Just my .02. I think by giving your d too much power, you also burden her with too much responsibility.
She's trying to protect you and her by saying goodbye to h. That won't end the pain and it brings up more of it
and from where you are at this moment, kicking him to the curb would lead you to 2nd guess yourself and have tremendous self doubt down the road.
You will always wonder what might have been...if you but forgave...
Plus you have a son too.
As for the meds, I'm PRO taking them when the alternative is losing it, or hitting or not being able to sleep or asking for gory details.
Like I said, that's just my .02
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
