I decided that XH's email this a.m. will go unanswered. Sure he asked some little questions in there about did I see such and such a news item, and he told me more about his life and past few months, but that's nothing I "have" to comment on. I think GAG might have been the one to say that you don't always have to answer everything they throw at you and Beatrice you probably said that too.
I think that a little contact is ok...and I'm very glad that we are on "speaking terms" again should anything crazy happen to either of us...I wanted us to be ok and not still in this stalemate.
And I do have this perverse happiness about the idea that he is hiding these emails from OW...because of course I don't give a rat's a*s what happens to her or how bad SHE gets hurt after what she did to facilitate destroying our marriage ;-) But I do think that getting too friendly with him might be playing with fire and of course, letting him have something he hasn't earned--which is my friendship. Friends don't betray one another and say it's for the greater good, "the ends justify the means", and that's STILL his position.
Just because I kick serious butt and got my life together better than I have ever had it in the wake of his path of destruction doesn't mean he gets to take credit for making me "happier" with his betrayal. I made MYSELF happier.
I don't want to shut the door on him for good...who knows, he may go through a serious change himself like I did and really understand that adultery is always wrong. But I think I let myself get too wrapped up in those emails--since that was a whole new thing to experience--and, lesson learned. I won't let that happen again.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
