PLEASE!!! Need help quick! Calling all vets!

[AntoniaB]

Actually in reading Eric's post, I agree with Eric. When I responded to XH with what I said above, I remember doing it with hope that I'd find the right words...that by saying I respected his decision, he'd suddenly say "Ok coming back!" And his reply was even more hard to take than the initial email, as he claimed that he was torn apart by the very thought of never seeing me again but that he was STILL going to make that happen...that he'd TAKE HER and his NEW LIFE over me. Sure he wanted me in his life as a friend, which would make ME make all the sacrifices to MY sanity. He'd get everything he wanted--to stomp on my heart and then take it back for himself as a FRIEND up till she decided that she didn't like us in contact, at which point he said he'd then drop me as a FRIEND.

So yeah. I agree with Eric. Don't even respond.

Calling her will do nothing but upset you. You cannot win this.

Emailing will make you nuts/texting as well.

Responding will not soothe YOU, nor will it bring her back.

I know that you are praying for a miracle to save your marriage/make her come back. What you should pray for is the strength to let her go and to emerge as a stronger person. Ask for help with that. That's where you need the most help.