PLEASE!!! Need help quick! Calling all vets!

[AntoniaB]

Tad, all I can offer you is to tell you what happened after I got a very similarly worded email from my XH about a month ahead of the divorce.

He went through with the divorce.

Maybe others will disagree with me--but I don't see her peeking out at all. I see her saying it's done. She's sad she is hurting you, but she isn't going back. I saw the same from my XH. I still see it now that he's back contacting me. He's "sorry" for my pain but he's "just not that into me" anymore, and that's probably because he's got OW to fill my shoes.

I don't think you're going to stop this from happening. This has been her agenda from day one and she's sticking to it. Just because she feels badly doesn't mean she is changing her mind, and honestly, in your heart of hearts, I don't know if you want a wife who is with you only because she feels sorry for you.

When I got a very similar message from XH, I told him again that I loved him, would always love him, and that I wished that things were different, but that I had to respect his choice whether I liked it or not.

I also said that maybe some day down the road we could be friends, but that it was too painful for me to be "only friends" with him while he was with OW. Then I told him that had to let him go to take care of myself.

And that's what I did.

Again--maybe someone else sees something different here than me, but this is worded so closely to what I got from XH, and he divorced me and never looked back, as far as I know.