myk, you have popped by my sitch. No worries on not remembering as there are far too many. Anyway, it was YOU that suggested the NUTS book, and I bought it right after you mentioned it to me so thank-you. My H said it changed his outlook on relationships and marriage.
Originally Posted By: jbnati
I am glad to hear both you and your H are open to MC. I hope you find a really good one.
I think we may have...I mentioned in a previous post that I found a pro-marriage in our area...well, coincidently H contacted her back in mid-August and has been receiving her weekly newsletters (as have I).
Originally Posted By: jbnati
Originally Posted By: Endeavour
Google Analytics indicated someone from her area was on my personal website (for my job) and I never get hits from that area so H and I are pretty sure she's watching me. Great.
Lovely.
Yeah, I admit I'm worried. I'm afraid she's going to out their A all over the place and damage our family even more. Time will tell just how crazy she is I suppose...
Anyway, I'm calmer today. H has been available to talk anytime I need to but I'm finding it less necessary as the days pass.
D16 is continuing to avoid H and has expressed that if it was her, she would chose to NOT stay in the marriage. I told her that these situations are complicated and that I'd been doing a lot of intensive reading on the subject so I'm simply not going to make any rash decisions. I absolutely hate that ow has involved my children but there's no changing that fact at this point, so now we're left to deal with the ramifications.
D16 has also mentioned that if it was up to her, she would want H to move out right now. However, she does not want her little brother to suffer so she does not want me to make that decision based on her feelings. I appreciate that she's being as mature about this as possible, given such a complicated conundrum.
So that's where things stand as of today. H continues to assure me of his remorse and has said he will do whatever it takes to earn the respect and forgiveness of me and the kids again. Time will tell, I suppose.
And we have both agreed to Retrovaille so that is hopeful. H said he's going to register us this week. (We shall see if he follows through).
All that said, the feelings of disgust I am having towards the thought of H touching me are deeply disturbing me though. I assuming they will pass in time...
Lovely. 
