Things got a little interesting with my S at the end of the day at work today. My S called me at work and told me he'd forgotten his planner and his homework at school. He asked if he could watch some TV or play video games until I got home. I had to dish out the tough love. The answer was no! He begged, he pleaded and overall did a poor job of DB'ing me out of my decision. I ended up leaving early and running him to school to get his homework and planner. We talked about things he could do differently so it wouldn't happen again.
My W came to pick him up earlier. I relayed all this to her. She seemed to approve. When she got here, I was out in the driveway in a lawn chair. We talked for a bit. Another pleasant exchange. We primarily talked about our S and what's been going on with him. Unfortunately, she made no mention at all of anything close to her actions having any influence on him at all. There was no direct D talk or R talk. She mentioned a couple of pieces of advise she had gotten from her friends with 3 kids (who I think has never been married ) and her twice D'd sister - it's hard for me to give those sources too much credibility, but I did listen. This whole thing just drives me nuts sometimes We're getting D'd because ????
I had my Tuesday night group at church tonight. Another good group meeting. I was the only guy again tonight.
I took a 8.6 mi. ride this morning before work and I'm getting ready to take one here shortly under the cover of darkness. (MTS - this two-a-day's for you! Okay, okay, it's just a couple of short bike rides, not football )
Y'all are too funny! Hey - I do have an extra bedroom right now and a partially finished basement.
Room for one more adoptee? I think jb would need to change his username to Brangelina at that point though.
Anyway, I'm stunned at how your W still refuses to see how her actions are affecting your S, jb. You did say that she tends to see the results of poor decisions further down the road so that seems to be slightly positive, in that perhaps his realization will be delayed. But yes, having a twice D'd sister as a confident does not seem very logical.
Room for one more adoptee? I think jb would need to change his username to Brangelina at that point though.
Sure, why not? We can have one big 'ol GAL'ing par-tay! I think I may pass on the username change though.
Originally Posted By: Endeavour
Anyway, I'm stunned at how your W still refuses to see how her actions are affecting your S, jb.
TBH, I think part of it is those two had problems off and on before the bombs. She has off and on over the years had trouble connecting with him. Hopefully the realization of the ramifications of her decisions won't be too late.
Originally Posted By: Endeavour
But yes, having a twice D'd sister as a confidant does not seem very logical.
I would agree. That influence scares me a bit. Her older sister had had her daughter with some man she never married, married and divorced a guy who was abusive, and married and divorced a guy who seemed pretty decent, but she was convinced he would never change. She now dating and is as giddy as high school girl. My W has also become friends with a leasing consultant at her apartment complex who has three kids - not sure if she's ever been married and not sure if the kids are from a single father - and she's 29 yrs. old.
I didn't mention earlier she was going out to dinner tonight with another divorced friend. This friend, however, is a LBS. Her H had an A with someone he worked with. So I'm not as concerned about that influence and there's an outside possibility it could be a good influence.
There isn't much logic with these WAS's. They do not like to have their irrational decisions questioned, so they surround themselves with people that agree with them.
Can you adopt me too JB? I call top bunk.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
) and her twice D'd sister - it's hard for me to give those sources too much credibility, but I did listen. This whole thing just drives me nuts sometimes 
We're getting D'd because ???? 
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Hey - I do have an extra bedroom right now and a partially finished basement.
But yes, having a twice D'd sister as a confident does not seem very logical.