ssmguy,

YAH mentioned Schnarch. You might want to look into that a little bit more - he brings a unique approach to these kinds of things that may be really powerful for you and your situation.

I think it's good that you and your W don't yell at each other. I wonder what the motivation is for that? Is it fear? Respect? Feelings of warmth?

I wonder if your best move in this case is to work towards really clearly defining yourself.

I also wonder what your wife gets out of this deal?


M: 32
W: 29
T: 9 Years
M: 4 Years
I hit rock bottom: 2/11
PA admitted: 4/11
WAW: 5/11
D filed: 6/11
now: Patience, wisdom, and growth - hopefully.