I think my situation is very much like everyone here. But the really strange thing is that my WAS (and I assume all the other WAS) really have no idea that this is such a common thing and...as such (with nothing other crazy happenings in the relationship) can be fixed.

What do I want? I want him to tell me that he is willing to work on the relationship and not just flee thinking that that will make him happy.

Thank you for the suggestions. Can you explain further what you mean by "Emulate?"

Thanks!