In the eye of my storm

[LITB]

Today is my W’s 40th birthday. I was gonna request advice on what or if I should do anything. I already had my mind made up, so I didn’t want to waste anyone’s time. Most, if not all of it is I am sure considered pursuing.

Anyhow, here is how it all played out:

Last weekend when I was in NM, I took my W and our children out to dinner. She didn’t know it was for her b-day. I took our kids to buy her gifts (a necklace from each) and cards to surprise her at the restaurant. She was pleasantly surprised. I have to give credit to our D8. My sweet girl made it work out beautifully. She chose the gifts and helped me get them into the restaurant without the W noticing. At the end of dinner, the waitress brought over chocolate covered mochi ice-cream and we sang happy birthday to my W as a family.

This past Friday I ordered my W her favorite flowers (tropical) to be delivered yesterday morning with a note that said the following:

Dear W,
Please know that you will
always be special to me,
and I am forever grateful
for the joy that you have
brought into my life.
May you have a very happy
birthday.

Always,
LITB

When she received them, she immediately called me to thank me. She was so excited.

Last night when the clock struck midnight Mountain time, I sent her this text message:

“Happy Birthday to you....happy birthday to you....happy birthday dear W....happy birthday to you!!!! And many more...........A big birthday text hug from me to you on your special day and a smiley for each year that this world has been blessed with you. (40 smiley faces) Here's wishing you an absolutely fabulous birthday.”

When I first woke up this morning, I call her and sang happy birthday to her. After I was done, she said thank you and we both were silent for a couple of seconds. It was a warm call. I wanted to tell her that I love her, but she knows. I told her to have a great day and we hung up.

Here was her reply to my text message:
“Awww thank you! I have been very blessed and I remind myself of that every day. And a text hug back to you. Thank you for making my "40th" special.“

My last reply:
“You are welcome. I know this birthday was a big deal for you, so it was important to me that it was special.”

All in all I thought everything I did went really well. I know that one of the rules is not to pursue.

I knew that this was an important day for my W and I wanted to recognize it. I felt it was the right thing to do and the right time to do it.

Will it help me reach my ultimate goal? I don’t know, but I don’t think it will hurt.