It may become harder when she gets older and is able to fully understand the sitch.
You know, she is so young, she will probably just feel like it's "normal". And she really doesn't ever have to know the sordid details - just that her parents split when she was a toddler, and her mom ended up with some other guy (or not!).
I agree she is so young it will just be normal for her that dad has his place and mom has her place. My boys are 7 and 4 and so far they are taking it pretty well. My sitch isn't as complex as yours but I am taking the high road as far as the kids go. I have said nothing bad about their dad in front of them. We told them we weren't best friends anymore and needed some time apart. My boys ask questions but it hasn't been as bad as I thought it would be for now.
All you can do is be there for your D and be the best Dad you can be. At the end of the day she is the most important person. But to be the best Dad you can you need to be happy so work on you and focus on D. We are all here for you to vent.
CS...I am sorry for this to happen to you, but I am happy you are finaly free. You now know what I have been feeling for a couple of months now. The freedom to not have to worry about walking on egg shells. To wake up and KNOW what the outcome will be with your marriage. The excitement when thinking about all of the things you can now do with your life. Meeting new people. Laughing because you really are happy and not just trying to show a front. NOT HAVING TO DEAL WITH THE DAY TO DAY CRAP THE STBE PUTS ON YOU!!!!
Do you feel lighter? Have an extra spring in your step? Dude, I am going to drink a celebratory shot of Crown tonight for you! Here is to Country and his bright future with peace of mind! You rock dude..
And if it wasn't for D I could never have this creature in my life again.
But this B is going to be in my life forever. More sadly, a "role model" for D.
That....
Makes me angry.
But....as I have found throughout this process...
These feelings pass. And in TIME...it will be OK.
I do have a sense of relief as well. Like you said. Knowing the outcome is nice. We live in a state of "what if" for so long. I will focus on the current details needed to put the legal side of this behind me for now.
After that is complete. I will be left with only my future. And making it happen in the now.
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Him. Being the weak man he has shown to be. Of course will wait as long as he can before telling her.
Then his D. She is now 3,000 miles away. Has a heart condition and has no dad in her life. Now she has to hear about this.
Why would anyone (your W) think that a "man" who would do this ^^^ to his own D, not do the same to her? What a coward.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Then his D. She is now 3,000 miles away. Has a heart condition and has no dad in her life. Now she has to hear about this.
Wow, that is really pathetic about the OM. And i guess the sad part is that he's now gonna have one more kid??
CS man you really inspire me to take a higher road and be a stronger person. And yea, i think it might fall on you for being there for your daughter as your W has shown that she can take some poor decisions.
And yup, 2 years is a lot of fun. My daughter is 3 now and i can already hear talk 'the big girl' talk. Man they grow up fast.
Take care.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
Only time will tell how it all plays out for them. But based on what has happened, and what they will have to deal with, I'm sure there is plenty of drama still to come.
Would have to guess they move into a trailer park at some point.
Probably get into huge fake finger nails.
Their life.
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Oh CS -- I've followed your story. You are DEFINITELY the better man. No matter what happens --- it is OBVIOUS. You are a ROCK, man. I have immense respect for you and the way you have handled things.
Sending you good energy and my support. Please take care and enjoy your precious little one every day.
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed
