Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[25yearsmlc]

YAH,

try Jojoba oil, which is actually a type of wax but is great for sensitive skin. Also regular KY with nothing "extra" added. Or baby oil if you can handle the potential mess-it's rarely an irritant.

A lot of those "for HER enjoyment" lubricants have an irritant in them that is supposed to increase blood flow there, but dang, they burn...

(gee, I guess that increases blood flow too??)

YAH, you should talk to SSm b/c he needs a man's view of "the other side" rather than more of the "I tried everything" but has not had intercourse for 15 years...

and SSM, the lack of cuddling and ALL other forms of physical intimacy, strikes me as signficant. And sad and not okay...ever ask her why? Yes I know she does't want it to "go anywhere" but

if YOU are clear about not going for more,

(sad in itself b/c sometimes it is a natural progression with no "Planned in advance" agenda, but the course of events between a loving couple....)

then why does she deny you then?

Later, You asked what the big deal was about no cuddling or sex if it's alright with you to not ever have sex again. Odd question given that you are here BUT I Agree-- it is NOT a big deal IF it is alright with both of you.

But you posted here for a reason, right?


Sure, I guess your MARRIAGE could go on like your life as a child in sexless relationships...

but I thought you came here b/c that's NOT what you want?

And fwiw, I guess I don't believe in marriages that are exactly like roomates. It's one thing to mutually agree not to have sex

(accidents or injuries can prevent it and many couples remain happy and connected)

but NO physical intimacy? NO CUDDLING?

Sorry but I think that's just oddly cold, on both ends.

And I don't get it. IF you were happy with it, my guess is you would not be here.

If I'm wrong, then just tell us what it is you want from this site. You are giving out mixed messages.