MLC OR WAW

[gunny]

Hello JBNATI,
Wow, thank you for taking the time to paste this. I am actually in the middle of DR and am also reading the circle of anger, to get some perspective. I actually found DR about a month ago and had been putting many of its principles into affect with some small but noticable results. But, about 3 weeks ago I wrote my wife a letter stating that I took responsibility for my flaws and shortcomings in the marriage and was willing to initiate any changes in our marriage to make it work, I also asked her to come to MC with me since she was going to be living with me at least until next may when our lease in our condo is up. After she got this, she immediately decided to leave this November in order not "to lead me on" She has been for the most part very delicate in how she treats me, worried about how I am taking things, trying hard not to make me feel worse. She says she has great guilt in not fulfilling her marriage vows and not staying in our marriage to realize our dreams of retireing early. She feels that we talked so much about the future that we lost track of the now, (she is quite right in this) She has some legitimate claims, I feel as if I have undergone a Near Death experience of sorts and am willing to do whatever must be done to save the marriage. All I ask of her is that she open up to me and not stuff her feelings. Sorry for rambling, you guys are great!