but you tend sometimes to overlook that MLCers are not rational
I agree with you 100% on this. That said it is us, the LBS that determine what we do and when we do it. That is my point to Antonia. She needs to do what SHE needs to do for HER. Every stich is different...what is not different are healthy boundaries. Boundaries are defined by the LBS - not the MLCer.
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They are not recognised by the MLCer as they have little sense of what is and is not appropriate
They do not have to be recognised by the MLCer...they must though be ENFORCED by the LBSer...for the LBSer emotional health.
So from where I sit, Antoina is the one in control - NOT her H.
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Piecing, as I understand it, is quite a way down the reconciliation line. The MLcer reaches out a long time before that stage is reached. And it is slow.
Agreed but at the same time every sitch is different. I have no idea if her H is reaching out...what I do know is that IF SHE DECIDEDS to leave that door open...well then Antonia must also DECIDED how it is left open. Slow...hmmm...define slow.
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But simple friendship isn't usually what a MLCer has in mind, I am fairly sure!
"Usually" does not mean NEVER though...and this is what Antonia will need to figure out.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
