I spoke to my wife yesterday morning, all great about the kids etc.
I had the kids last night, as I set off to get our daughter there had been a bad accident and the traffic was stopped.
I sat for a while then started to panic about time, I tried to call my wife but no answer, I called her at work, and she had left already, probably at the gym I thought.
As time got closer I called my wifes mother and father and asked them to pick her up, they were fine about it and said I should have called earlier, they had heard about the accident on the local news
A short while later they called to say they had her and not to worry, great!, I went and got my son from home, he's older and has a key. As I got him my wife called, I told her what had happened etc, and then she blew!!!, she started to tell me that I should not have called her parents, and that I should have left my daughter there until I got there???, I said it would be closing before I got there, but she said that I should have just left her, that she was at a "party", and why had I called her when it wasn't her night!!!!! WTF!!!!
I tried to stay calm, apologised and left it at that.
I then got our daughter from her parents, my wife was on the phone speaking to out daughter when I got there, she then spoke to me, said that could I get our son to call her later.
My wifes mother looked at my face and asked what was the matter, I said that I was sorry that I called her and that I should have left my daughter there, she looked at me and asked why did I say that, I said that my wife had been angry with me for calling them and it wasn't her night, that I did whatI thought was best, but it wasn't in my wifes eyes, she told me not to worry and did'nt look pleased!!
As I drove home my wife called me, she was angry and thanked me for telling her mother what she had said, that her mother had been angry with her and after calling her names, she put the phone down on her,calling her a poor mother for not caring!!!!
I just explained that I apologied for calling her and that I should have left my daughter there alone!!!
She told me that I shouldn't have called her and this is what would happen, again I apologised and ended the call.
Later my son called her, no answer, she then called him back and said nite to both kids, she then spoke to me and said that her mother had upset her telling her what she thought, and that I should not tell them anything? A few weeks ago her parents redecorated the full house for her!!!! They are really close?
So this morning there was no call from her regarding the kids or anything, I had to swap a nights care for work so I had to call her, she wasn't at work today!!, called her mobile and she was still angry with me, had a terrible attitude and was very abrupt, I only spoke about the night change,and she said fine, but that was it?? Where was the woman who I had spoke to so much lately??
We ended the call but was also surprised that she didn't ask about, or mention the kids at all??
I was getting angry now, I knew she had been with OM, but her attitude was terrible.
I called her mother to say sorry for causing any upset the night before,etc, she was fine about it, she said that her attitude to her had been very poor, and that her mother had put the phone down on her calling her a bad mother for not caring! I said that she had changed since the weekend, and that the OM must be on the scene, she acted innocent, but I could tell she knew more, but she didn't say, only saying that she was not happy with my wife, her attitude was terrible and she should be putting her kids first, she always has so hence the shock!!
We spoke somemore and she said that both her and her father had noticed a change in her at times, she told me not to worry about it and that I did the right thing.
Later in the day I sent my wife a text, I know no contact!!!!, I just asked if she was ok as she had not asked about the kids, and was she fine.
Again the attitude was basically, I know they are fine, why are you contacting me!!!!!! What a massive change in her!!!, there was no party, she was in a hotel with OM!!! But her attitude was terrible
I sent her a text basically saying that I had done nothing wrong, that I had enjoyed talking to her recently without any arguing, so why the change??, what was up with her??
No answer!!
So now I back off again, this is total crap!!
My only assumption is that he works away and is home for a period then away again?
How can she go from laughing and joking on Friday, to this on Monday/Tuesday, she didn't sound very happy either, so I don't know what to think??
If I was spending time with someone I hadn't seen in a while I would be happy and it wouldn't matter who I wa talking to!!!!
What do I do now? I need to make contact to speak to the kids, but this is stupid???
