Hi Antonia - ummm don't take the Tarot too seriously.
I have come to see that our xh's are extremely immature. I mean really really immature. Now I totally get this it makes it so much easier to understand.
They are just not behaving like grown ups. Look at your interactions with your xh . . . . he wants a relationship with you, clearly hasn't let go the rope, but doesn't know what he wants, and can't be bothered/hasn't developed the life skills to try and work it out.
I see this now so clearly in my interchanges with my xh. So much posturing and insincerity. Your xh telling you about his vacation when you KNOW he was there with OW, and his'pretending'. He would say it was so you weren't hurt I expect. but really if that is the case he would simply stay away from you. But no . . . . childish and exhausting.