No, you're not an idiot. And you can't make her happy. That comes from within. Some people are naturally pessimistic, and your W sounds like she is. The whole thing with her being critical of you now she is in what she sees as the breadwinner role, may be because she is scared of the financial future. I believe most women like to feel secure.
Have you gotten the Divorce Remedy book? You can read the first chapter on this site. It will help you so much, as will the advice of the wonderful people who have found this site, because we are all in this together. vc
