Ignored my wife for 5 years. Really bad. I own it. I didn't listen to her and I didn't keep her happy.
So now I am really really trying to change and show her that I have changed. I am very attentive to all her stories and engaged, asking her about how this made her feel and what did she think when that happened?
And guess what? I remember now why I had to ignore her. ALL she does is whine and complain about every little moment of the day and all the awful things that happened to her and all the bad things that are going to happen tomorrow and why this person isn't good enough so she has to step in and that person won't be good enough on her presentation so she'll have to take that over too. Ugh.
I mean seriously, what do it do here? If I tell her gently to be more positive she'll just go off and tell me I'm the reason she's so unhappy, etc. If I ignore her, well now I am just ignoring her again.
And when she's done venting and complaining to me, she goes to her EA OM and giggles away on her texts. WTF am I an idiot?
