SSMG seems to be enabling his wife's status as the victim, so presumably there must be a gain for him in not pushing for any change for decades.
I don't know how anybody could push harder. I dragged her to therapy with three different therapists over time. It's hard to push a chain.
You know, there's an unspoken assumption in these kinds of threads, and everything you hear on TV talk shows and self-help books. And that assumption is that if you just go to therapy enough, you will eventually always solve the problem. And in fact, a lot of therapy is not successful, or only partially so.
And so I've heard the reply, well, you haven't tried this or that particular therapist. And then I hear that someone went to six different therapists before they found something that worked. Well, you know, by the time you do all this, you're going to be dead from old age!
But seriously, at this point, I think her main issue is simply that she doesn't find sex interesting at all. And she doesn't see the point in it, it's been so long. And she doesn't really see why it should be such a big deal for me. And I have to say, after all this time, it's not real fun to have someone "service" you when you know darn well they are not enjoying it.
