Oh, CS, I didn't realize the OM in your sitch was also married. Idiots!
Let me just say, that sticking to the high road and having some compassion for the terrible pickle your W has gotten herself into, is admirable.
There HAVE been a couple of guys here, whose wives got pregnant by their affair partners, who chose to take their wives back and raise the child as their own. Obviously, this only works if the wife is truly repentant, the marriage was strong before and worth saving, AND the guy has the fortitude to do so without taking it out on the innocent child. I doubt if the tables were turned that I could have that kind of strength, and certainly am not recommending it to you - just mentioning that it is not a complete impossibility.
Still, I think most men - and women - just can't get past the spouse getting pregnant by the OP, and most of the time it just enables you to get some closure and move forward.
