Do what I can but still have questions 4

[soccerwife]

I called the MC today and told him about my goals for the next session. I warned him that H is only attending to try to soften my stance on D up a little.

MC agreed that the focus of the next session will be to listen to H's POV and then give him information that allows him to at least contemplate the possibility that he will be happier with me than w/o me.

We actually spent an hour together last night watching TV and he didn't try to bait me. We had some nice conversation. So, I am pretty confident that I can actually soften him even further by thursday's appt.

Also, our 15th anniversary (not wedding anniversaty, but together anniversay) is coming up in a couple weeks. I don't expect him to be thinking about that anytime soon so I went ahead and got us a REALLY great gift.

I am going to replace our shed with a two-car garage where he can park his "toys". And that will free up our one-car existing garage for my car for the winter. He is going to love it! This is probably the one gift that I could actually afford for him that could change our entire relationship. (I can't afford the Audi or the second motorcycle he would like to buy or tix to Spain for the next Real Madrid Game.)

I know what you all will think, a huge gift is pursuit. I don't think it is in this case because he has said that he doesn't want to move out even after D (I know he is crazy). This is a gift truely from the heart and it is something he has been talking about for a long time but has never found the money for. Plus I would really love to not have to scrape my windows or shovel snow off of my car roof this year.