Pretty sure this is a MLC or Identity Crisis

[ericmsant2]

Scared (suggestion…change your posting name)

I just came upon your thread and you are getting some very good advice.

A couple of other suggestions….
1) Determine what you want and then as hard as it feel at times LISTEN to YOUR attny, that said remember they work for YOU. And by what you want…I mean your life, the life with your D. Do you want to have her full time / half the time? What exactly do YOU want for YOU (and don’t tell me you want your W back…I get that piece and there may be a time for that…for NOW…what DO YOU WANT NOW?
2) Start to document everything but do not tell her. When I say everything, everything. The times you have your child, the times, she goes and comes. Think of this as an insurance policy. Do not tell her or let her find the documents.
3) Here is a tough one, especially for a dude in a “mother” state – DO NOT BE AFRAID! If your intentions are good then you have nothing to worry about.
4) Separate the legal aspect of this from the moral aspect of it and do it NOW.
5) Accept that everything is going to be your fault and PROTECT yourself.
6) Be the parent to your D that you always wanted to be.
7) Take a step back for a second and figure out what YOUR life may look like should this get ugly. For example: what are your day care plans, what about back up day care? How will you deal with your D being sick, do you know all of her doctors? How much sick time do you have at work – should she get sick? Think buddy about what it will be like to raise your D as a part time parent.

I am a little miffed that W has basically let the OM move into the apartment, thus now exposing my D to the affair.

And what does this ^^^^ teach you about YOUR choices and caving in to HER demands?

God Bless,
Eric