4) Your job is NOT to fix the R between your W and your son. Your job is to not say anything or do anything that would make the R worse.
Tad, if you take nothing else from these boards, take this one to heart. Think about it: would you want somebody telling you how to have a relationship with your mother? Would you want to have to keep those feelings bottled up? Would you take your anger out on the person that tried to tell you to suck it up and back off? Do you want to be the object of that?
In any case, let them work it out on their own. They either will now, or they may later. But in any case you CANNOT help and CANNOT win but you can do damage and you can get hurt as well.
Stay out of it, my man. You'll be glad later that you did.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
