Help! Walked out on

[brianw17]

Thanks for the responses, lets see what has happened....

I have read the books recommended and I am trying the no-contact and 180 style.

Last week we had our first therapist session, she did not come which was alright because I told her I would understand if she didn't want to come. Rather, she came and got some additional clothing from the house, not a lot of clothing I couldn't really even notice. So maybe thats a good sign?

This also seems to be a hasty decision on her part, she left on a tuesday, and on saturday we were both in a friends wedding (she ask that I not go), a week before she left she had her cervix dialated (seemed very painful) so we could have a better shot of having kids. She was supposed to start clomid this week.
I sort of have to imagine that if she was aware she was walking out on me she wouldn't have gone through a painful procedure and done it after that wedding.

I have began eating like I did when I was fitness freak (tuna and chicken, and veggies 5 times a day) and I have dropped 10 lbs.
Joined a gym because I don't want to lift in my empty house.
Applied and Started coaching youth hockey.
Bought new clothing
and began building for Habitat for Humanity.

I have made some screw-ups, like moving money into a personal account the day after she left, on the advice of my friends who are attorneys. She emailed me late last week stating that she needed time to "consider our marriage" which isn't what she said when was walking out on me. And I tried to explain that I moved money because she said she wanted a divorce and I was scared and hurt. Hopefully she can get over that, because I can get over the fact that she walked out on me.

I am having little to no contact with her. I told her that the ball is in her court and that I am not going to write to her anymore. Our next session is this 9/14. Hopefully she will come. I am going to begin setting up two therapy sessions per week starting next week.

She said that she doesn't want to talk to be because I am too good of a talker and she wants to make her own decision.

I am willing to play her game for a while, but I cannot see myself riding this roller coaster for many more months.