MLC OR WAW

[gunny]

Hello, I am new to this board but really have benefitted from reading many of the posts. Your compassion and willingness to help people you dont even know is amazing. I am in need of some advice. My wife dropped the bomb on me on June 20th, this year. We have been happily married for 11 years, together 13, with no children. Of course, over these 11 years we have had our issues, specifically my inability to show my feelings, my very strong some would say disfunctional loyalty to my immediate family i.e. mother, brothers, etc, but none that would rise to the occasion to cause a divorce. MY wife, by her own addmission, has always been reluctant to stand up for herself, she would stuff her resentments to the point where they have blown up to the dropping of the bomb. She is 45, and I am 51, I noticed last year she started to change here hair style and color, started buying new clothes, buying and wearing alot of jewelry, which she never did, and using facebook more and more. She traveled to OHIO last year to care for her ailing sister, reestablished a relationship with her best friend from grammer school She has never liked new jersey. We are still amicable and will be living together until this november, when she will be moving to Ohio to stay with her sister. She is originally form Ohio, and has told me she wants to move thre to find a connection. She feels that she has lost herself in our marriage, and is only now being honest when she says she wants to leave. She has told me twice in the last few months that we had a good marriage, and that I was a good husband, but that she fell out of love. Of course, at this opoint is is very negative about everything, our life was boring, we didnt do enough fun things, she is only 45, not 60, etc, etc. I do not want a divorce, I HAVE asked her to attend cc with me she refused. She will be leaving in 6 weeks, I have been actively dbing for about 2 months, sometimes I see moments where she is concerned, lingering for conversation, etc, so, I gues my question is, do you thinnk she is undergoing a mlc or waw or perhaps a hybrid, and what is my best course of action. Sorry for the rambling, you all are great and i EAGERLY await your response. p.s. there is already and ea with old boyfriend from ohio,