As for the birdhouse etc. He said other hurtful things just to hurt me. i.e. "I wanted to f^_k someone with a flat stomach."
We both took 9/9/11 off early from work and sat outside. I didn't even have to bring it up, we started talking about this. He claims I do this too. When I asked him for an example, he couldn't think of one, not one. I acknowledge that maybe I do say things that hurt him or "cut" him "to the core" as he says, but I NEVER said anything to hurt him on purpose.
I'm just really getting it that he is hurt and damaged in ways I have no idea about. He can be so kind, loving, smart, and level headed.......then there is this incredibly vulnerable part of him that he keeps locked away from himself and me. It's like this nasty little boy comes out to take revenge.....The A was a reflection of that. He and ow were bullies to their staff. ....sorry I just have to document because this is hitting an "a ha" moment.
H's other assistant ended up quitting because H and ow treated her so badly....in subtle, passive-aggressive, mean ways. It's all in my first postings. After the ow left, she called our house months later when she learned from staff that ow had left. She wondered if she could have her old job back. I called her and she told me that staff told her I was starting to show up at H's work. She told me so many things, including other staff spying on H and ow. She said that when ow wasn't there H was nice, easy to get along with, but when ow was there he was a real jerk. She said they often left early and left her to do all the closing duties. She would then see their cars parked at a local pub....ugh!
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
