Balance is certainly what we should shoot for, indeed! In a new R you're very susceptible to "what did that mean" "did I do something wrong" etc. so my goal, aside for going slow, is "think less". Thanks again, hope your sitch resolves itself soon. Btw, I wasn't implying that you support playing games. I just feel that MM and I don't seem to make each other wait when it comes to contact and I'm OK with that. We seem to be on the same page there. Now, as far as asking her to do something I will wait, let her sort out her schedule and relax a bit. No teasing about getting together although I don't think she has an issue with that cuz I always do it in a humorous way but, hey, why play with fire! lol