Treading water - time and patience

[NYCPeter]

More rollercoaster from the W.

Spent a pleasant day with the W and girls around the house, we went to the local park, then out for brunch and my W cooked us a nice evening meal.

My W was online most of the evening while I watched the Jets game, around 10:00pm my W said she was going to bed and good night, she said she was moving the baby monitor to her room (we use this for D9 in case she wakes up in the middle of the night). The implication was we would be in seperate rooms again.

I asked where she wanted me to sleep and she put the question back on me - I said I wanted to sleep in our bed again, she said "oh - I'm not really sure". I again said I wanted to sleep in our bed and that if she really felt uncomfortable to let me know, but that I didn't realize it was a "one night thing". She said "no it's fine" and went to bed.

I went up after the game and we lay next to each other with some contact, but not the same level as the night before. I feel she is withdrawing again - One thing she mentioned last week was she was going to talk to her C this week to figure out why she couldn't be more intimate with me.

I'm not going to give up the bed unless she clearly states she doesn't want me to share it or she clearly resents me sharing the bed.