My faith gives me the courage to move forward

[MrBond]

sgctxok,

I have to disagree with you about 25. If you've been following the posts, she's been encouraging rysmom to get legal representation to protect her assets. Rysmom has repeatedly said how her H has been spending money and she's afraid to lose everything, etc. 25 and others have encouraged her to see a L to protect her financial sitch.

Rys has also said how she doesn't have a job and doesn't know how she will support her son. So all this is within reason.

We all have been telling her to at the very least start talking to her H to start communicating with him to improve their relationship. What you see is bullying is frustration plain and simple.

I've been accused of this as well as others on her posts. And mostly everyone has abandoned her. What you see as bullying is frustration for someone who is losing herself and has chosen to do nothing. That of course is her choice. However there were times where rysmom came close to implying suicide saying things like "i can't live" or "i can't go on" etc. And you and others have been silent.

there were times that I begged her to seek professional help when she's said such things and they only fall on deaf ears to her. That's why I was seriously beginning to wonder if she were real.

If you've noticed from the beginning of her thread, that there's been erratic behaviors on her part. Extreme highs and extreme lows. This goes beyond the M. Let's face it, we're all here to save our marriages. We wouldn't be here if we weren't. But when you see someone who needs personal help, not just marital, you can't get angry at the people trying to get this person to seek that help.

Out of all the people who have been posting to her, the moderators have not been heard from. I understand you all may be busy and it is her decision.

When she starts talking about how she's going to lose everything, I don't think about just her, I think about her son as well. What do you think she's going to do to herself if she starts to lose him as well. That's why I've personally asked her how we can communicate with her in a way that will spur action. She hasn't answered that question as well.

Again this goes beyond a M issue. There is a tortured woman whose problems seem to stem from more than just the M. I do have experience in this having to work with families in crisis, so we are all worried. If you don't believe me, when there are times she starts talking about how she gets physically sick, or is going crazy, or whatever, show it to a professional and they can give you a straight up answer.

DB is more than just saving your M. It's saving your M and yourself in the process.