H said he wanted to talk to me...and i think the conversation was good, but i am left trying to understand a few things on where he is coming from.

Some of the things he said...

1. I havent made up my mind yet, and i want to stay and try mc, then go from there.
2. I will be honest even if it hurts
3. I won't pursue anyone else while we are giving it another try/mc
4. I'm tired of the day to day existance of our lives here
5. I dont have chemistry with you. We talk, laugh, and enjoy each others company but i dont have sexual feelings. We share a bond, but its not passion.
6. Its not you, its me
7. I have been depressed and sometimes cant make it through the day at work
8. I dont want to see you suffer or hurt, i worry about you
9. I just want to be free, im changing, and i cant shove it down anymore, but im not ready to leave, i want to try this but i think everything will stay the same
10. I dont think i can get my needs met inside the marriage because i want to be alone. I will do what the mc suggests and try to bring me closer but i cant pretend with you if my feelings dont change.

At this point i validated his feelings and painfully accepted them for the first time to him. He actually called his feelings stupid, but i said no, they are not and as much as your feelings hurt me, i see they are genuine and very real.

Lots of crying, him and me both. He was in a mood to talk and not be distant which is good.

I did ask him, what can i change about our daily existance that would make you happy? What can i improve about me.... And he said he didnt know, cause he just wants to be free. And he said there was nothing wrong with me. That im fine. Then he explained that he thought he started to like ow because she seemed to take the misery away. He said he has dropped her because she wasnt responding to him when he tried pursuing her, and didnt want to look ridiculous.

He wants to be in love again and have passion but does not feel it with me naturally. Its not exciting anymore. I explained how this is normal in long term relationships and that it takes two to work on it but he feels it should flow natural and not something you work at.

Ok so, here is what i am confused on... If there is nothing wrong with me, why pursue ow? How can i know what to improve on in order to save my marriage other than gal?

Please, any thoughts on what my h is saying....and my next steps?