Need help...don't know what to do...

[chris1102]

I don't know what I should do anymore when it comes to the H. He doesn't want anything to mess up his chances of seeing this kid that he and the roommate(OW) have worked on creating. She hasn't had it yet and I try not to even think about it. I know I can't control his actions or him but is there really any fixing this situation when it makes it this far?

The only thing I can say is atleast he had waited till after I was out of the house to get her knocked up. The time apart was supposed to be for us to fix what was wrong not for him to decide "hmmm....well the wife isn't in the house maybe I should act like I'm not married and get with the roommate".

I wish we could just take all the OW and OM and put them on an island somewhere away from our S so they don't have contact with them. Maybe then the S would see what they have right there infront of them.

I know I have become a person only a fool would leave. I am stronger than I was 8 months ago. I go out with my friends and have fun. I have ways of keeping myself busy. I can live life without the H. I am more confident in myself that what I have been in a long time. I know that only I can decide when my marriage is over. I can actually say that I am content with or without my H in my life.

Its been 7 months since me and the H first separated. I don't think I can get him to change his mind about going through the D process that he already got started. Is it bad that I don't even want to pray to save my marriage anymore because nothing has changed not even alittle bit?

It's sad...its out in the open that they are together and she is getting everything she wanted. She has my H and now she is pregnant with kid.(if it isn't someone else's)I don't get it...they are happy together and thats the reality they have for themselves. I'm out of their hair and out of the house so now they are free to do whatever they want.

Part of me wants to say its time to close the door on my M and maybe find someone else to be happy with. While the other part says it would be nice to stay married and reconcile before our next wedding aniversary.