I'm reading about MLC and drawing comparisons, I'm beginning to lose focus on me every now and then. I like what I do in several respects. I'd always felt I needed to do more for my wife and not just my kids. Now I am. I like the fact that I've developed a routine around several household chores.
It can be risky to draw comparisons when it comes to phenomena that people are trying to describe. It's difficult to really define what your wife is experiencing through somebody else's lens. Labeling people as MLC or Alien or whatever places a kind of pathology on them. Their choices are probably sincerely motivated in some way by some kind of construction in their minds that what they are choosing will bring them greater happiness or alleviate for them some anxiety they are experiencing.
If you have taken a look at things and decided you should do more for your W, thats great. And it sounds like you feel better about yourself in that choice. Also great.
Do you expect any reciprocity to come from that?
You want to tell her how you feel - why?
She tells you that she resents you and you feel happy? I think i remember reading earlier in your thread that you felt like she needed to 'express' her anger. Have you revisited that thought lately?
Do you feel resentment towards her?
M: 32 W: 29 T: 9 Years M: 4 Years I hit rock bottom: 2/11 PA admitted: 4/11 WAW: 5/11 D filed: 6/11 now: Patience, wisdom, and growth - hopefully.
